i better go out and get a feel of them for real like most of you recommend... might end up buying something else.... the only fear in my mind is ending up with something that in couple months will feel obsolete
You really should do that. The 60D is a fine camera and just looking at the pedigree of 550D and 7D it really does outshine the D90 (maybe not the D7000). If you are into video the 60D is better. Also, the Canon system is also perfectly fine for a beginner.
I'm a bit surprised with the result. imho, Canon 60D is a better camera. It is not too complicated for beginners too
...only Nikon fanboys would recommend the two year old D90 over the 60D