That's a ditto on the print out Patti.
Photo J. WOW, thanks for the information. yes overload but good, I want as much as I can get. Just because my eye's are getting tired before I read all of the post doesn't mean I won't finish it later.
To clear things up, this is My Wedding, I'm getting married, yeaa!!. And I'm having help, not a paid professional, but an expirenced friend. take the pictures. I will be getting with her, discussing and practicing ideas before the wedding, but I am preparing. I will also be having another less experienced person taking pictures with my camera. Depending on her lens options, flash options, she might be using my camera for the primary. But at this point I'm not sure. The Wedding itself will be outside under a pavillion. Then the pictures of the wedding party will be taken again outside at the same place, but there is a nice pond, big rocks, a waterfall, and well landscaped, flowering beds and large bald cypress trees near by.
With that put out there, those photo's should be much easier, hopefully weather helps us here. For the light will be much better. Under the pavillion may be a bit tricky given the need for a flash I'm sure. The indoor, yes your right, reception is seeming to be the hard part. the lights may be even lower at times, with tables with candles on them. The Dance, the bestman/woman speach, the Cake, and friends, family will be the hard shots.
Equipment:
Right now I have the 40D, kit lens (28-135mm), and a 50mm F1.8. I really wanted a longer zoom for my honey moon, so there might be another lens, but I'm not sure that length is going to help me. Oh, and I'm thinking about buying a speedlight 430EX. (what do you think?) I only have UV filters, and I will have 4 4GB utra II cards.
While I don't expect these to look like $2000 pro photography pictures, I do want to try for the best. There's no way I can get all that gear you mentioned. LOL, that would cost as much as the wedding

I have am getting interested in a wider angle lens, but thought of holding that one off a bit.
I will read and learn a little more about your post later and will post a better reply, you are much more advanced than I am. Its amazing to see what can be involved though. I will also try to go to these area's again and take some more test shots.
The mini guide is awesome, it will help me look at what's important and help plan things out, very good ideas.
I will review this more in depth and try to address some of these issues, I knew after one shot that it was going to be tricky in that place. Thanks for your time and your help. I'll get back after reviewing.